In the tradition of Frank Browning's The Culture of Desire comes Guy Kettelhack's provocative, honest, unapologetic look at the sex lives of gay men. Dancing Around the Volcano is essential reading for the American gay community.Gay men have long been told that regardless of their individual characters and desires, they should aspire to a monogamous model in their romantic and sexual relationships. Now, Guy Kettelhack wants to "tell the truth about the sex gay men are really having," offering a path to sexual liberation that embraces the conflicts and paradoxes of sex.Using the voices of different men who tell of their experiences, Kettelhack questions the assumptions about the "pathology" of promiscuity, sexual compulsion, prostitution, sadomasochism, fetishes, and celibacy. These personal stories are often sexy, sometimes funny, almost always poignant in their honesty, and startling in their insights. We hear about everything from hustling to monogamous gay relationships, from the baths to the private bedroom, from fisting to French-kissing. What emerges is a sex-positive take on the whole gamut of gay male sexual behavior.Celebrating the ingenuity with which gay men manage their sexual and aggressive drives and fantasies, Dancing Around the Volcano is a passionately pro-sex book with potentially healing--even revolutionary--implications for everyone: gay or straight, male or female.

Product Description: This book is written for anyone who wants to connect to another person be it lover, spouse, work colleague, child, friend or relative. The seven-step format takes an otherwise overwhelming task and breaks it down into easy to visualize, small behavioral steps...read more

A thoughtful study of compulsive behaviors draws on the the experiences of gay men and lesbians confronting the challenges of recovery as they struggle to overcome self-hatred as they deal with alcohol, drug, food, sex, work, or other addictions. Original. (view table of contents)

Product Description: The first in a series of three recovery guides for the first three years of sobriety, First-Year Sobriety uses the voices of many women and men who are struggling in the often baffling territory of their first year of sobriety to show that despite their differing experiences, all are united in the process of giving life without alcohol or other drugs a chance...read more

Product Description: This second volume in Kettelhack's series takes on the "terrible twos." Here people in recovery share their experiences and insights in dealing with long-suppressed feelings of anger, loss, guilt, love, and self-acceptance. Kettelhack shows how "sticking with it"--persevering with the struggle to deal with new feelings and refusing to give in to addictive impulses--ultimately creates the sense of life as an ongoing adventure, one more vivid, exciting and sustaining than had ever been thought possible...read more

Product Description: In the final book of this series, Kettelhack offers moving and triumphant stories of individuals in their third year of sobriety. In doing so, he brings alive the ongoing process of building self-esteem and explores what this process means at this point in recovery--"turning it over" to a Higher Power, doing service, developing an increasingly positive attitude toward health, relationships, and family, and creating a new definition of success in sobriety...read more

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A provocative study of gay sexual behavior addresses the conflicts and paradoxes of sex that impede the path to sexual liberation, discussing such issues as promiscuity, prostitution, sadomasochism, fetishes, compulsion, and celibacy. 15,000 first printing.

Revealing alternative treatments to AA programs and twelve-step protocols, an encouraging guide stresses the importance of working with an individual's personality and lifestyle. Original. 15,000 first printing.

Using case histories, anecdotes, and a straightforward style, an experienced counselor argues that individual communication styles are based on childhood experiences rather than gender and offers a proven technique for ending the miscommunication and blame that often destroy a relationship.

A psychotherapist explains how women can distinguish internal needs from external expectations, and offers advice on recognizing hidden traps that impede achievement

Looks at the causes, types, and impact of love triangles and explains how to recognize the problem, enhance communication, and establish more intimate relationships